Before I met Mister D’s mom in the year blah blah and became the best of friends since, I had another best of friend, M. I met her when I started at a new school. We were in the same class and we just hit it off with our love for certain pop star and the drooling over young and upcoming Hollywood actors. We were inseparable for the next two years until we were separated by the school system in our third year. That was when it turned sour.
M and I stopped talking to each other and honestly, the details were just too childish to discuss. I wondered what I have done to deserve her cold shoulder and had received some cruel treatments from her and her newfound friends, for which I have never retaliated. Things have not been the same since as I went on the next couple of years till graduation from that school. Sure, I hung out with some new friends but nothing came close to a best buddy. Even though M existed, I have never acknowledged her. I accepted the fact that our friendship was over and I moved on.
However, a year ago, she re-surfaced – in cyber-world at least. She wrote me after seeking help from another former schoolmate to get my e-mail. In her e-mail, she asked me to forgive her for what she had done to me back when we were teenagers. She felt that our friendship was so pure and innocent but she had tainted it. I could sense remorse in her e-mail and that she is now a completely different person. I replied her to say that this happened a long time ago and that I have forgiven her when I realized that I could never have her back as a friend and I moved on since. She thanked me for my forgiveness and to me that was probably closure for her but I never replied to her e-mail after that. I didn’t know how I should move on from there.
Then, this year, I sent her an email on her birthday (not sure if it is gift or a curse but I tend to remember birthdays but not necessarily that I will act on that). After she thanked me, again, I stepped back and not respond. Yesterday, I received a message on this site called Where Are you Now (WAYN.com), which I rarely visit. I logged on to find that M has sent a request to add me as friend found out that she was in this part of the world (she has moved to the States a while back from what I understand). I dropped her an e-mail, proposing that we meet up if she is going to be back in Singapore. Almost a few minutes later, she replied to say that she had left Asia a couple weeks back.
M and I stopped talking to each other and honestly, the details were just too childish to discuss. I wondered what I have done to deserve her cold shoulder and had received some cruel treatments from her and her newfound friends, for which I have never retaliated. Things have not been the same since as I went on the next couple of years till graduation from that school. Sure, I hung out with some new friends but nothing came close to a best buddy. Even though M existed, I have never acknowledged her. I accepted the fact that our friendship was over and I moved on.
However, a year ago, she re-surfaced – in cyber-world at least. She wrote me after seeking help from another former schoolmate to get my e-mail. In her e-mail, she asked me to forgive her for what she had done to me back when we were teenagers. She felt that our friendship was so pure and innocent but she had tainted it. I could sense remorse in her e-mail and that she is now a completely different person. I replied her to say that this happened a long time ago and that I have forgiven her when I realized that I could never have her back as a friend and I moved on since. She thanked me for my forgiveness and to me that was probably closure for her but I never replied to her e-mail after that. I didn’t know how I should move on from there.
Then, this year, I sent her an email on her birthday (not sure if it is gift or a curse but I tend to remember birthdays but not necessarily that I will act on that). After she thanked me, again, I stepped back and not respond. Yesterday, I received a message on this site called Where Are you Now (WAYN.com), which I rarely visit. I logged on to find that M has sent a request to add me as friend found out that she was in this part of the world (she has moved to the States a while back from what I understand). I dropped her an e-mail, proposing that we meet up if she is going to be back in Singapore. Almost a few minutes later, she replied to say that she had left Asia a couple weeks back.
I guess it was a blessing in disguise for now because I am not ready to see her and still not sure how I would handle it if we had met. I know she will be back to these parts again but for now, I think I will continue to write her every once in a while. Those two years when we were inseparable were special. We had drifted apart since and I don’t know if the chemistry will still be the same. I guess I will find out from our correspondences here on and I deal with seeing her face to face when the time comes. Baby steps, baby steps.
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